Commemorating Mother's day is not just a commercial date, it is a moment to reflect on our maternal situation, whether or not we are biological mothers, mothers of life projects, we are all the Mother´s voices who nurture and sustain life.
We share with you the voices of our women collaborators in the Zoe Network, each one gives you some very significant reflections, be sure to read them.
Mothers Day can be a wonderful day in the year of someone’s life but I venture to say that for MANY many many many people, Mother’s day is full of mixed emotions that may or may not be fully known - let alone addressed. For those who have a fruitful and healthy relationships with their mothers or those they mother, we hope your Mother’s day feels wonderful. Mother’s day is a unique moment where we can openly pause and celebrate someone who might tirelessly support the loves of many around her without ever getting much acknowledgment. To those mothers, we light a candle and send all our love and light in their directions!
Depending on the study, it is safe to say that about ½ the population in any given part of the world has an emotional bond with a parent that is, at best, not particularly strong, healthy, and secure or at worse, there is no bond or positive relationship at all. The role of mothers has been a complex one that has been loaded with (mostly) unbearable expectations over the past centuries. Pressures as industrialized societies demanded work hour and production, while plagues, capitalism, wars, and migrations destabilized societal priorities, roles, functions, and definitions of “mothers.” Today we find ourselves about one year after the official “pandemic” declaration ended (may 2023), which was just the last human experience that took 7 million people’s lives leaving countless parentless children everywhere and an even greater number of survivors still wrestling with long-covid repercussions.
For some, this day may be their first “Mother’s Day” without their mother physically present. For some, this day may be a reminder that they never met their biological mother. Some may carry unresolved weights in our hearts and minds over conversations we can never have for a variety of reasons, which may include disagreements, dementia, or death. Some may not feel fully seen and known and loved by the children they raised or the mothers who raised them. We at Zoe Network cannot know what this holiday means to you but we do want to invite you to wonder with us in this season, about the people who have deposited goodness in you and mothered you into being the person you are today.
Who were those mothers who like a bird sitting on her eggs til they hatch, have protected your in times you did not even know you needed protection?
Who were those mothers who showed you the path to walk in and encouraged you along the way?
Who were the mothers you called when your times got complex and something in your heart just KNEW their words would have a response for your moment…?
Light a candle for them and write them a note. No matter where they are now, release from your heart into the space around you Gratitude towards those mothers who leaned into their motherly wisdom and loved you with compassion, honesty, and love.
If you cannot think of anyone in your life who showed up in that way for you, light a candle and write a note to your inner child acknowledging how scary it was to feel so lost and alone in times when adults should have shown up to protect and guide you. Promise your inner child that you will show up for yourself - noting how you will protect your inner child with love, honesty, and compassion from this day forward.
Allow Mother’s day to be what you need it be for your heart and mind to be at peace. Create the space you need in order to hold yourself with love and compassion first, before attending that celebration you might not feel completely excited about.
Caring for yourself first will allow you to show up for others in ways that are healthier and safe for those you love and for yourself. Special days can be wonderful, memorable, exciting and also sometimes the complete opposite. Still, we know you can (re)author the narrative you want from this mother’s day and beyond. When you do, we guarantee that you will have the more peaceful and joy-filled life you can only imagine in your dreams!
For help in crafting your plan towards a more peaceful and joy-filled life, reach out to us and let us know how we can support you. The Zoe Network is here for you. May your heart and mind be open to what this Mother’s day can bring. May it be so.
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Desde mi traslado a Ibagué (ciudad en Colombia) me he sentido muy sola y a pesar de tener muchas cargas antes de viajar , acá he sentido mucho esta carga , tanto emocional como física y es que ser mamá no es fácil, ser mujer no es fácil y tener a cargo la responsabilidad total de tus hijos no es fácil, entonces me parece importante poder reconocer y dar el valor que esto significa, es reconocer que podemos estar tristes , podemos estar agotadas, podemos querer solo dormir y descansar sin que eso nos haga sentir culpa por no atender a nuestros hijos, pero es un ciclo que se vuelve infinito, tratas de darte ese espacio pero no lo consigues, sin embargo hay estas atenta a las necesidades de tus hijos a pesar de estar tan agotada.
Realmente reconozco y aplaudo a todas las mamas que están solas o a veces acompañadas pero es "como si no lo estuvieran", y les digo que sepan pedir ayuda y que se den cuenta que no pueden con todo, así queramos no se puede, y que debemos darnos valor y nuestro lugar, debemos estar de primeras , y no es egoísmo es amor propio, esto para que podamos dar tiempo de calidad y amor real a nuestros hijos.
Un abrazo, gracias por este espacio de reflexión!
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